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Sunday, June 4, 2017

Pride Month Challenge - Day 4

This post is part of a series originally called "30 Day LGBT Challenge" which asks queer-related questions to be answered during Pride Month.  The original questions can be found here.

Question 4 is: The first person you came out to and that story.

The first person I came out to was my boyfriend at the time, who went through a big theatrical thing about how he'd totally always love me anyway and blah blah blah, eventually escalating into an argument leading to me breaking up with him.  He never really accepted it and there are still traces online of him talking about me as "that girlfriend who turned out to want to be a guy."

The first person I vividly remember coming out to that didn't turn out to be a trash heap was a classmate of mine in my anthropological methods class.  He was doing a student ethnography on the local queer community but he was also convinced that there were no trans people who were willing to talk to him about it.  I emailed him to tell him that I was trans and would be willing to talk if he needed it; he didn't take me up on that offer but he's a good guy and I still see him from time to time through alumni involvement with student queer groups.

I don't remember actually "coming out" as queer not counting the trans stuff, because queerness is so normalized in my experience that I just kind of let it happen?  My parents are a great example of this, in which I had thought I'd made it clear via context clues that I was into multiple genders, and yet they still got all Shocked when I said I was dating a woman.  Similar story with me being poly... I never actually told them I was poly, I just bring up references to it in daily discussion and they seem to have gotten it.